Setting Boundaries And Saying "No"
We all have lessons to learn here on Earth and for myself, one of my lessons has been in setting personal boundaries when it comes to “people pleasing” and having the courage to say “no”. What sounds so easy to some, can be so very difficult to others, especially those who are so sensitive to other people’s energy and feelings. I had a client who was also struggling in this area and it was interesting what advice her Higher Self had to give her in Quantum Healing Hypnosis session.
J: She finds it hard to say ‘’no’’ to people, we are both ‘’yes’’ people and it leaves us feeling overwhelmed sometimes when we say yes to things we don’t want to do. HS: The lesson here is standing in your own power and not giving it away. Acknowledging that your needs are just as important if not more important because the only one that can take care of your needs is you. Your happiness is your job. You are not trusting your own intuition and your heart. Listen to your heart - she doesn’t want to let anybody down but she needs to check in with her heart first and then speak her truth. J: We can’t always keep everybody happy and sometimes spread ourselves too thin? HS: That’s right. The only person you can keep happy is yourself, you cannot keep anybody else happy – that is their own job. J: We humans like to have alone time but also time with family and friends. Sometimes it is hard to find the balance between family and friends, especially when friends always want our company and time... HS: Follow your joy and do what makes you most happy. You will find the balance but don’t do things out of obligation because you will start to resent, so you will have to speak your truth. If you really want to do something that is going to upset someone else, you need to have that discussion to speak of why it is so important to you because otherwise you will begin to resent. When there is resentment – there is no room for love and the only thing will cure or help or fix any of your relationships is love. *A special thank you to my client for allowing me to share this information with the collective.